After my return to Europe last year I became an avid Facebook user, eager to keep in touch with friends I left behind, and also to help me document and cope with the challenges that came with the big move. The first few months Facebook was a lifeline that initially served to console me, but eventually tethered me to my previous life so tightly I found it difficult to fully engage with my new surroundings. I suspended my account only to return a month later, feeling I was missing out. Nothing had changed, which was both a relief and a disappointment. A couple of months later my account was compromised and I suspended it once more. Again I returned, caught in a seesaw of “not-with-you-not-without-you”.
What has caused my definitive break with Facebook, however, isn’t fear about my data and the company’s cavalier conduct concerning user privacy. Although it should have. The reason my love affair with Facebook is finally over is what I want to call the Flaschenpost-Effect. Flaschenpost is German for message in a bottle. No matter how important the events that shape us, when we turn them into social media posts, they become one-dimensional. As Facebook-users, we are ourselves as flat as avatars. We “like” and “heart” each other’s posts, but when we see each other in person, we tend to make absolutely no reference to anything we saw or read on the other person’s timeline. As if our virtual realities have nothing to do with us. Online posts do not, as a rule, start conversations even if they may start revolutions. Each one is a message in well-sealed bottle, bobbing up and down in a vast ocean of bottles. We get glimpses of words and pictures through thick glass, but rarely take one out of the water to pry open the cork and pull out the rolled-up paper inside.
I have to admit that my blog feels much the same to me these days. Still, I place this missive in a bottle, and toss it into the vast, polluted sea.
A little about myself:
Hello there and thank you for visiting my website! I have lived in Spain, Mexico, France and the United States, but now make my home in Germany. I have a Ph.D. in Literary Studies and a Master's in TESOL, and have published several books for children, among them El Loro Tico Tango and El Fandango de Lola, a 2012 Ezra Jack Keats Honor Book. As a writer and an artist I'm in constant conversation with my own anxious mind even as I celebrate the joyful possibilities of our crazy, incomprehensible world.